Tag Archives: Romance

Knowing

How did you know you were suited for life as a submissive/slave?

How did I know my true nature? Well, I suppose I have always known deep down even if I wasn’t sure exactly what being submissive meant or a name to call what I was feeling. I felt a certain craving for the darkness. While other teenage girls were dreaming of a prince charming, sweet and good-natured to come and find them, a much darker man was encompassing my mind. I wondered what it would feel like to be kidnapped, held against my will, tied up and made to satisfy every need of my captor.

Thinking about it now and trying to pinpoint a time of when I realized I was different, I would say it was at a very young age. My first serious boyfriend when I was a sophomore in high school was my initial introduction into the world of a dominant man. I was completely consumed and enraptured by the relationship. The relationship was not without its problems, many of which had to do with the fact that neither of knew what was really going on with us, just that he liked control and I needed to give it to him. When the relationship ended badly I thought I had been drawn to the wrong type of relationship. I spent the next years being with men completely opposite and never being satisfied as I once was, and so I assumed something was really wrong with me.

I now know that I didn’t need a man with the opposite nature that I craved; I needed the “right” man. I needed to learn what my soul has been trying to tell me all along and then find the one I needed to surrender my control to. Once I figured all of this out I instantly became peaceful. I knew without a doubt that I was on the right path and that eventually I will be where I am meant to be and with who I am meant to serve. So, how did I know I was suited for this lifestyle? My answer would be my soul has always known I just needed a little time for my mind to catch up.

“Submission is not in the bowing of heads or knees but in the humbling of your whole being (spirit, soul, and body)”

–Ikechukwu Izuakor

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Blind Faith

Is there a place for blind faith in the lifestyle? Should it be encouraged/discouraged?

I think that there is definitely a place for blind faith in the lifestyle as long as you are with someone who has your absolute trust. The point I strive to get to in a relationship is to not only have complete trust that He knows my needs, wants, and limits but that I can put my faith in all His decisions.

Is this something that happens right away? No, but I do think that it would be an extremely pleasurable place to be in a relationship. Where everyone’s needs are not only being met but also those expectations are exceeded. I can’t think of a more satisfying place to be.

“The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart”

~ Helen Keller

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Obedience

Do you find obedience to be easy for you?

Obedience to anyone in my life is NOT easy for me. I am a strong independent woman who relies completely on myself to survive in and be successful at life. I was taught by strong women to not rely on anyone else, especially a man, to provide for me. I am headstrong and feel as though my opinion is usually the right one. I get frustrated with people when they don’t listen to me and it takes effort on my part to not be too pushy. So, when I think of being obedient to people in my life, it makes me smirk.

I, however, don’t even question doing what He wants. Obedience comes as a second nature when it is directed towards Him. I don’t even think, my body just complies with His demands. It is a great feeling and a reason why I know what I am doing with Him is right. Something that comes so easy and makes me feel so complete could never be the wrong decision.

Does that mean that everything is perfect and my life is one that movies are made out of? Lol, not hardly, but the best parts do make the bad parts better. I don’t worry nearly as much as I used to, I don’t obsess as much, and I have even learned some semblance of patience, which if you knew me would know that is a feat all in itself. As stubborn, independent, and proud I am  about my life accomplishments, I value my relationship and obedience to Him above all else.

It is funny to say but I think of my submission as my biggest achievement. I feel so happy and complete in my mind and body and it is all attributed to being able to finally let go. I love the feeling of giving myself to Him. I have never truly given myself to anyone before. I thought I had in the past but now that I am living in this moment I realize the truth. I almost feel bad for cheating myself and the other people in my past relationships but there is no changing it.

Now, I relish in this moment of my life. I wake up smiling and go to bed feeling like there is actually another person in this world who understands me and is helping to make me better. I feel accepted and that is a great feeling. So, do I find obedience easy? With Him, easy doesn’t even describe it, obedience with Him feels like the way is should always be.

“To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity.”

-Douglas Adams

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Romance

Does romance have its place in D/s relationships?

Dear God, I hope it does. I would like to think that in the barest of bones we are still talking about a relationship and a two way street, which means that the basic components of any relationship should be there.

Isn’t a D/s relationship different where the sub gifts her Dom with her submission and is grateful to serve him? Yes, that is the best part of the dynamic. With that said I still believe that romance is not dead and absolutely has a place in this type of powerful relationship.

I guess the next most obvious question is….What does romance mean to you? I am not one of those women that need to be showered with material things. Do I like presents? Sure, I love getting presents but I do not consider a present something that ensures the relationship. I believe romance is felt not handed over wrapped with a bow on top.

For me, romance is a touch, such as a single finger trailing down the side of my face while he is listening to me. Romance is His undivided attention when we are together, or even a kiss that expresses more about the way He feels for me better than words ever could. Flowers, candles, gifts, trips, etc. are the only way some people, both men and women, know how to express themselves romantically.

I was always raised to know that the mind is your most powerful asset. I was taught to love from my grandmother who didn’t have much money but made me feel like I was the most important person in the world when I was with her. This is the only way I know how to show people the absolute love I feel for them. Not with anything money could buy but by listening to them and knowing what is important to them, then simply trying to incorporate that as much as possible.

I am a watcher, an observer of behavior, knowing what makes a person both sad and happy are powerful tools. I feel proprietary over the people I hold dear to me and I do my best to be there for them and let them know exactly how important they are. I guess what I am trying to say is that all of this, knowing a person and letting them know they are loved in little ways every chance you get, is romance to me. I, without a doubt, believe it belongs in a D/s or really any type of relationship that is out there.

“Never close your lips to those whom you have already opened your heart.”

–Charles Dickens

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