Last night I was sitting on the couch in the living room working diligently on my book. I was encased in the story playing out in my head and writing it all down as quickly as possible when I hear laughter coming from the girls’ room. The 7 year old and 13 year old are actually getting along and talking to each other. This is an extraordinary event so I put down my notebook and listened.
The 13 year old is bestowing a very important reality check to the 7 year old.
13 yo: “Oh yeah, school is Soo much harder when you are in 8th grade, like seriously!”
7 yo: “Really? Do you have a bunch of reading and math and stuff?”
13 yo: “Oh yeah and we have a bunch of different classes and teachers, not just the two teachers that you have now.”
7 yo: “I’m never going to make it in that hard school.”
13yo: “And you can forget about recess. There are no more recesses when you get older, only a 30 minute lunch, then it’s back to more school work.”
7 yo: “No way! No recess? How do they expect us to be kids with no recess?”
I was laughing so hard at this point I didn’t hear the rest before they came out of their room. With the big sister reassuringly resting her hand on the 7 year olds shoulder.
So this morning I thought I would play with the 13 yo a little bit.
Me: “Hey what do you have planned at school today?”
13 yo: “Nothing much, just wrapping up some tests before the Christmas break.”
Me: “Cool. Hey how about I come up there and eat lunch with you?”
13 yo: “Uhhh, Mom we don’t really do that sort of thing in 8th grade?”
Me: “What!?!? But hey all your friends love me and I’ll get to meet those boys all you girls are always talking about on the weekends!”
13 yo: “Mom, NO! Seriously, you can’t come up there. I don’t want you to meet those boys. “
Me: “I could totally hang out with y’all and we could maybe sing some of those songs y’all are always singing along with on YouTube. Hey maybe we could sing to those boys you like. We would be the coolest people at lunch.”
13 yo: “You have got to be kidding! NO WAY, I am dead serious mom. DO NOT COME TO LUNCH!”
Me: Smiling deviously “Alright, if you insist but I’m telling you I could totally talk to those boys you are shy around and make sure they notice you. Just let me know if you need my help and I’ll be up there in a heartbeat.”
13 yo: “OMG, Mom. You are impossible. I said I wouldn’t mess around with boys, I do not need you to get involved. I am going to school now to get away from this madness.” Shaking her head and grabbing her backpack on the way out the door.
The 7 yo who is waiting about 30 more minutes for her bus to arrive comes to sit next to me on the couch and says, “That was awesome! If you do go to her school and eat lunch with her one day will you please let me come along? I’ll totally show you all the boys she likes, I know what all of them look like.” We high five and start laughing while waiting. Being a single parent is tough but there are moments of greatness. 😉
“Raising kids is part joy and part guerilla warfare.”