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Public Displays

How do you feel about public displays of affection? Discipline? Play?

I enjoy public displays of affection. I like to express myself, my feelings, and feel loved when they are returned to me. I don’t mean inappropriate amounts of affection that to me feels like someone is trying too hard. I just like to let the person I am with know how happy I am to be with them which can be shared with a look of bedroom eyes, soft touches, kisses, hand holding, or even as simple as fingertips running down a back or arm.

I have never been disciplined in public but I can say it doesn’t sound like something that would be to my liking. When I think of being disciplined I don’t imagine a happy place. I am not into public humiliation. With all that being said I trust that He would know my limits and act accordingly. I would take whatever punishment was given to me in public or in private and let Him know if it was going too far beyond what I could handle so we could talk about it. I would never just say “no” without at least trying and trusting Him.

I like to push the limits with “playing” in public. I am not one who would enjoy being on a stage while everyone watches us but doing naughty things in public turns me on. I like having a secret, something so special and exciting that only He and I are sharing in. I become enthralled with the idea of what He is doing to me or demanding from me while strangers are so close and oblivious to what is going on. I get caught up in the thrill of maybe getting caught and having to obey His wishes while maintaining control as best as I possibly can to not give us away.

I would venture to say that I enjoy being with Him and doing whatever is demanded of me. Whether it is for pleasure or discipline, the thought of all this occurring in a public space makes it that much more, because it would be with Him and that is really all that matters in the end…

“One must do violence to the object of one’s desire; when it surrenders, the pleasure is greater.”

–Marquis De Sade

The prompt for this post can be found Here

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Knowing

How did you know you were suited for life as a submissive/slave?

How did I know my true nature? Well, I suppose I have always known deep down even if I wasn’t sure exactly what being submissive meant or a name to call what I was feeling. I felt a certain craving for the darkness. While other teenage girls were dreaming of a prince charming, sweet and good-natured to come and find them, a much darker man was encompassing my mind. I wondered what it would feel like to be kidnapped, held against my will, tied up and made to satisfy every need of my captor.

Thinking about it now and trying to pinpoint a time of when I realized I was different, I would say it was at a very young age. My first serious boyfriend when I was a sophomore in high school was my initial introduction into the world of a dominant man. I was completely consumed and enraptured by the relationship. The relationship was not without its problems, many of which had to do with the fact that neither of knew what was really going on with us, just that he liked control and I needed to give it to him. When the relationship ended badly I thought I had been drawn to the wrong type of relationship. I spent the next years being with men completely opposite and never being satisfied as I once was, and so I assumed something was really wrong with me.

I now know that I didn’t need a man with the opposite nature that I craved; I needed the “right” man. I needed to learn what my soul has been trying to tell me all along and then find the one I needed to surrender my control to. Once I figured all of this out I instantly became peaceful. I knew without a doubt that I was on the right path and that eventually I will be where I am meant to be and with who I am meant to serve. So, how did I know I was suited for this lifestyle? My answer would be my soul has always known I just needed a little time for my mind to catch up.

“Submission is not in the bowing of heads or knees but in the humbling of your whole being (spirit, soul, and body)”

–Ikechukwu Izuakor

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Blind Faith

Is there a place for blind faith in the lifestyle? Should it be encouraged/discouraged?

I think that there is definitely a place for blind faith in the lifestyle as long as you are with someone who has your absolute trust. The point I strive to get to in a relationship is to not only have complete trust that He knows my needs, wants, and limits but that I can put my faith in all His decisions.

Is this something that happens right away? No, but I do think that it would be an extremely pleasurable place to be in a relationship. Where everyone’s needs are not only being met but also those expectations are exceeded. I can’t think of a more satisfying place to be.

“The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart”

~ Helen Keller

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Socializing

Are you a social person? What would you do if your Owner wished you not to socialize? Would you be able to comfortably obey his wishes or would you feel the request was unnatural for you?

Yes, I am a very social person when the time is appropriate. I love to talk, laugh, and have intelligent conversations while learning as much as I can from other people. I try to regard life as a journey of truth and self-discovery while accepting all people I meet as my teacher. My hobby is to observe individuals, noticing their mannerisms and different personalities, and try to understand them.

What would I do if He asked me not to socialize? I would do whatever was wanted of me. If I were going somewhere with Him I would not be out in front talking and meeting everyone in the room. I would be there for Him and do what was requested of me, even if that meant to stand quietly by His side and offer Him support and comfort.

If I were asked to not socialize at all for a longer period of time, I admit it would be harder, but do-able. I wouldn’t say that to never speak to someone was unnatural for me but it would be a constant effort on my part simply because I like people. The thing with requests or tests of my obedience is that I am here to obey them and not question Him.

I love these prompts because they give me something to write about and connect with all the lovely people that read my words but I don’t want either you or myself to lose sight of what it is I am actually doing with Him. I certainly have all these thoughts and questions in my mind but the part that is easy and beautiful about this whole relationship is that I can just trust Him and all my worries wash away.

I may not always understand why He would want me to do something or not do something, I may not even like it at first, but it isn’t my place as His submissive to question every single request made of me. My only part in this is to please Him, meet His desires, and in pleasing Him I get the peace, comfort, and love that I need in return.

“All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours.”

-Robert Browning

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Sense of Self

In the beginning, did you ever wonder if you would lose your sense of self somehow in your submission? Has that proven to be the case? Is that still a question for you?

About a year ago when my world started to implode on itself I questioned everything. I questioned who I was, what I was doing, and how in the world was I going to get back to the genuine me who was happy and fulfilled.

Soul searching is a long process and one that is still on going for me. It is funny to watch movies and have the characters figure all their problems out in a day and move on to live the life they always wanted. For real people the progression to finding true happiness and self-actualization takes a lifetime and is a journey that is always in motion depending on life circumstances.

In the beginning of exploring my sexual interests I realized that I wanted more than just sex, I wanted to be dominated. I needed so much more than the sexual experiences I had in the last 10 years and would devote the rest of my life if needed into finding what would fulfill my needs. I, of course, was worried when first researching about submission that He would take away everything, including all the pieces of “me”. I guess in some relationships that is what can happen and hopefully is what both people are needing if that is the case.

I know now that a relationship is what you make. There are so many different people out there with unique needs and wants. Could I ever completely turn over all sense of self and serve a Master? If the situation felt right, I could with no question. Do I do that now? No, right now I am still building “me”. I work, go to grad school, write as much as I can, raise children, and run a household. I feel like all these components of my life give me an outlet for any extra energy or additional growth I need as a person right now.

Losing myself is not a question for me anymore. I know that I am stronger now than I have ever been. I have more patience and understanding then I ever thought possible. I feel like because I get a sense of peace from having a D/s relationship I am free to learn and grow to be a better person. If it ever came to a point where I was asked to give things up to be a better submissive, I would do whatever was asked of me from the right person. I wouldn’t be with a person who didn’t understand my needs and me. That is why I trust Him so much because I have faith that He understands and knows what is best for both of us and He is there to take care of US.

Major life decisions can be talked about but I wouldn’t put up a huge argument. Honesty has always been a HUGE part of my world. I still believe that it is but I am learning that TRUST is becoming just as big. I am seeing that trust is something I am destined to give to the right person and my need to put myself in His hands is becoming great. I feel lost when He is not there and the weight of the world removed when He is. I am still independent and feel that my sense of self is greater because of Him. So if requests were made for life changes, jobs, making babies, traveling, writing, exploring, learning, and devotion it would be my pleasure to honor those requests because that is what love and trust is about.

“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.”

– Antione de Saint-Exupery

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First Impressions

What book, movie, or website most influenced your first impressions of what slavery was about? How has that changed your view on slavery?

When I first started feeling as though something was missing from my life I researched everything I could think of for some guidance. I stumbled upon a BDSM website and the rest as they say is history.

Learning about all the different aspects of the lifestyle, I must say some of them scared me. Slavery was one part that I just couldn’t get my mind around. Why would someone want to give up everything, their choices, their thoughts, and the ability to be their own person? I could get behind the whole Dominant and submissive relationship because it seemed the submissive still had choices.

Then I read a book in the Masters of the Shadowlands series called “To Command and Collar”. It portrayed a different side to the Master/slave relationship. The story was written from the point of view of the woman who was the slave and detailed all the internal struggles I, myself was battling with. How can a self sufficient, adult woman find happiness in a relationship where she has no control, ever?

By the end of the book I was able to see how much thought, love, and vulnerability went into the relationship. It wasn’t about some tyrant needing to enslave a woman; he helped her along in the process of becoming a slave to a point where they both were in a place that felt right.

Obviously, this was a book of fiction but it still helped me see the difference the right person can make in your life. I no longer feel scared of the slave part in a M/s dynamic. My new outlook is that it would be wonderful to feel that cherished by another person. To be looked after and know that you were giving him just as much joy and he was giving you.

“Distance means nothing when someone means everything.”

— Unknown

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Strength and Slavery

How do you define strength, and do you see yourself as strong? Is slavery unaffected by the presence or absence of strength? Could you see yourself submitting to someone less strong than yourself?

Strength to me is surviving, continuing on when all feels lost or abandoned. I do see myself as strong. I am not always at my best, I face many trials and tribulations like everyone else, but I refuse to be beat down, I refuse to roll over and give up.

I think slavery is very much affected by strength. To be a slave takes a very strong person. A slave gives over all of their trust, bends their will to serve their Master to the best of their ability. A tremendous amount of strength is needed to belong to a Master.

I believe that if I found the right Master to submit to, we would compliment each other. Finding the right person to be with isn’t about a list of attributes that they must meet or else I won’t be with them. For me, finding Him would be about a connection, a feeling that is unmistakable that I can’t walk away from. I don’t need Him to meet a checklist to keep my affections but to find in me what is missing in Him and vice versa.

“As a slave, you do not give up your will. You learn to attune it to another person’s, until the two are as one. This is the real source of that “second sense” that some experienced slaves have: they know their Owners so well that they experience the Owners’ needs and desires as their own. In a sense, then, rather than giving up responsibility, a slave becomes doubly accountable.”
–Christina Abernathy